A campaign designed by Y&R (a Mexican-based advertising agency) recently won the prestigious Golden Lion Award at the 2012 Cannes Film Festival. This campaign highlights the sad fact that often physical, emotional, verbal and sexual violence is cyclical. The anti-violence industry has know for quite some time that exposure to violence in the home during childhood greatly increases the risk for future victimization and/or perpetration of violence in adulthood. This creative and visually stunning campaign brings this fact to the public’s attention. They say that knowledge is power, so let’s hope this educational campaign is a step towards breaking the cycle of violence.
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Outreach Wednesday – Insightful Anti-Violence Public Awareness Campaign Wins Golden Lion Award at Cannes Film FestivalIn Awareness Campaigns, Current Events, Education, Outreach on July 11, 2012 at 12:59 pm
What Is “Sexual Assault?”
In legal terms, sexual assault is any sexual contact that is against a person’s will or without consent. This includes situations where force, violence, or weapons are used as well as situations where the victim is too intoxicated or scared to give consent. Sexual assault happens to men as well as women. In fact, by most estimations, 5% to 10% of sexual assaults committed in the United States involve male victims. Some experts say that as many as 1 in 10 men will be sexually assaulted in their lifetimes. These numbers may sound startling because the problem of sexual assault against men isn’t talked about very much.
Sexual assault against men happens in lots of different ways. Some men are assaulted by a stranger, or a group of strangers, while others may be assaulted by someone they know. Men are sometimes sexually assaulted by women but most often they are sexually assaulted by other men. Some attackers use weapons, physical force, or the threat of force to gain the upper hand. Others may use blackmail or a position of authority to threaten someone into submission. Still others use alcohol, drugs, or a combination of both, to prevent victims from fighting back. No matter how it occurs, it is a violation of a man’s body and his free will and it can have lasting emotional consequences.
Myth Vs. Reality
Let’s take a look at some mistaken beliefs about male sexual assault and uncover the realities behind the myths…
Myth: Men can’t be sexually assaulted. Reality: Men are sexually assaulted. Any man can be sexually assaulted regardless of size, strength, appearance or sexual orientation.
Myth: Only gay men are sexually assaulted. Reality: Heterosexual, gay and bisexual men are equally likely to be sexually assaulted. Being sexually assaulted has nothing to do with your current or future sexual orientation. Your sexuality has no more to do with being raped than being robbed.
Myth: Only gay men sexually assault other men. Reality: Most men who sexually assault other men identify themselves as heterosexual. This fact helps to highlight another reality — that sexual assault is about violence, anger, and control over another person, not lust or sexual attraction.
Myth: Men cannot be sexually assaulted by women. Reality: Although the majority of perpetrators are male, men can also be sexually assaulted by women.
Myth: Erection or ejaculation during a sexual assault means you “really wanted it” or consented to it. Reality: Erection and ejaculation are physiological responses that may result from mere physical contact or even extreme stress. These responses do not imply that you wanted or enjoyed the assault and do not indicate anything about your sexual orientation. Some rapists are aware how erection and ejaculation can confuse a victim of sexual assault — this motivates them to manipulate their victims to the point of erection or ejaculation to increase their feelings of control and to discourage reporting of the crime.
We are excited to announce that we have redesigned our website! Hopefully everyone finds it a little more user friendly (and easier on the eyes). In addition to updating the site, we have also decided to host the blog there as well. We are moving the blog from this location (rcasa.wordpress.org) to rcasa.org/blog. This site will no longer be sending out updates, so make sure you set your email notifications/RSS feeds/bookmarks to the new location! See you there!
When I think of powerful men within the movement to end sexual violence against women, Tony Porter often comes to mind. Within the world of violence prevention work he is well known as the inspiration co-founder of the nonprofit A Call to Men: The National Association of Men and Women Committed to Ending Violence Against Women. This nonprofit works tirelessly through education and public awareness campaigns to change the social norms that define masculinity. By promoting the concept of healthy masculinity, Tony Porter and his colleagues at A Call to Men believe that men can play a key role in ending violence against women and within our society as a whole. Below you will find his inspirational speech about breaking out of the “man box” and promoting healthy masculinity in young men.
To learn more about the work of Tony Porter and A Call to Men please visit their website.
Rape can happen to anyone, anywhere, anytime. Any male can be the victim of sexual assault, regardless of age, class, race, disability or sexual orientation.
Although few men expect to be raped, it happens more than most people realize. Approximately one in twelve adults seen by Sexual Assault Services are men.
Thousands of men are raped each year, yet only a fraction of these assaults are reported. Male rape is one of the most under reported of crimes; male rape survivors are among the most under-served crime victims.
In our society, enormous stigma is associated with being the victim of sexual assault.
Survivors of sexual assault frequently encounter unsupportive or even hostile reactions from the criminal justice system, social service providers, family friends and lovers.
As a result, male survivors of sexual assault too often suffer the enormous trauma that rape can create in isolation and silence, trying to forget that the assault ever happened. Below are several common myths associated with male sexual assault followed by a brief outline of the facts.
Myth: A strong man can´t be raped. He must have consented.
Fact: In fact, being strong is no defence against rape and just because a man did not fight off his attacker does not mean he consented. Surprise, a weapon, threats, being outnumbered or frozen by fear, makes fighting back impossible for most victims. Any man can be raped when his attacker, for whatever reason, has more power.
Myth: Men are the offenders of sexual assault not the victims.
Fact: Although most offenders of sexual violence are men, men can also be victims.
Myth: Only gay men are raped.
Fact: Both heterosexual and homosexual men are raped and statistics show that victims are more likely to be straight than gay. Sexual preference is not generally relevant, except perhaps where the victim is the target of an attack motivated by homophobia.
Myth: Only gay men rape other men.
Fact: Both heterosexual and homosexual men rape other men. Those who commit sexual assault are motivated by the desire for power over others and so sexual preference is not particularly relevant to them.
Myth: Men do not usually know their assailant.
Fact: Although men are sometimes sexually assaulted by strangers, it is more common for them to know their attacker. Sexual Assault Services see men who have been raped by strangers, acquaintances, family members, teachers, colleagues, youth leaders, and others.
Myth: If it´s someone you know, it´s not rape.
Fact: Your rights over your body are the same whoever is involved. If the attacker is someone you know and trust, the abuse is in many ways worse.
Myth: If a victim is sexually aroused during a sexual assault, it means he wants to be raped.
Fact: Sometimes males who are being raped experience or are forced into a state of sexual arousal. This does not mean that the individual wants to be raped. This response, which may be involuntary, is one way the body chooses to protect itself from the physical and emotional trauma of the attack.
Myth: Men can’t be raped.
Fact: Any person can be the victim of rape. Although outdated laws in NY State define rape of males as “sodomy”, the reality of the crime and the intensity of its impact make sexual assault one of the most devastating acts of violence a male can experience.
Myth: Rape of men only happens in prison.
Fact: Those who claim that rape of males happens only in prisons contribute to the continuing denial of the problem of rape in the larger community. Sexual assault can occur anytime, anyplace.
Myth: All rape victims are young and weak.
Fact: Any male, no matter how old or strong, can be the victim of sexual assault.
Myth: The best way to cope with rape is to forget about it.
Fact: Denying the impact of rape can have serious emotional consequences. Virtually any reaction is normal. These can include anger, fear, guilt, self-blame, denial, depression, sexual dysfunction, sleeplessness, feelings of helplessness, feelings of being out of control and difficulty with concentration. The intensity of these feelings can contribute to the individual’s decision not to tell anyone about the assault.
Men who have been raped are often very reluctant to seek help. They are accustomed to bottling things up rather than talking about them. Their reluctance to speak out may be increased by the fact that they are misled by some of the myths and misconceptions about men and rape, which are common in the community. Although it can be hard at first to talk about the effects of being assaulted, most people find that it is very helpful to do so.
¡El abuso sexual de menores de edad se PUEDE prevenir!
Quizás se sienta triste y desalentado al saber las estadísticas y la realidad del abuso sexual de menores, al conocer qué tan a menudo sucede y cómo los agresores son personas en las cuales el niño confía y conoce. El sentirse triste y desalentado es muy normal, pero las buenas noticias son que el abuso sexual de menores se PUEDE prevenir por medio de adultos y padres de familia que se preocupan y, junto con su comunidad, consiguen hacer una diferencia. La prevención comienza al romper el silencio y el secreto que rodea el abuso sexual de menores de edad. Los adultos pueden lograr esto al tener discusiones o charlas sobre el abuso sexual, sobre cómo los adultos pueden enfrentarse a comportamientos inapropiados de los niños y sobre cómo mantener una atmósfera segura en la cual el niño pueda expresarse sobre temas difíciles de la sexualidad y el abuso. Cómo ya se mencionó anteriormente, RCASA y muchas otras organizaciones se dirigen directamente a los niños y a los adultos. La educación sobre la prevención incluye los siguientes programas: hacer conciencia e involucrar a la comunidad en general, desarrollar fuentes de información que estén al alcance de la comunidad y, por último, desarrollar fuentes de información disponibles para que los adultos se eduquen sobre el tema, denuncien sospechas de abuso y busquen apoyo. La prevención se puede clasificar de la siguiente manera: primaria, secundaria y terciaria. La prevención primaria se dirige a la población en general para detener el abuso sexual antes de que éste suceda. La prevención secundaria sucede antes del problema, pero se dirige a poblaciones susceptibles de ser (o consideradas) de “alto riesgo”. Sabemos, sin embargo, que el abuso sexual de menores de edad sucede en todo tipo de poblaciones, edades, razas, religiones y niveles socioeconómicos. Si solamente nos dirigiéramos a mujeres, jovencitas y/o niños susceptibles de ser (o considerados) de “alto riesgo”, caeríamos entonces en el mito de que éstas son las únicas víctimas. La tercera prevención (o prevención terciaria) se ofrece después de que ha sucedido el problema, y ésta puede incluir programas donde se enseña a los adultos cómo identificar y denunciar adecuadamente un abuso después de que el niño ha sido abusado y cómo puede un niño responder ante una situación de peligro. La ayuda que se presta, una vez que el niño ha sido víctima, es considerada como una intervención. Cualquier tipo de prevención es importante y valiosa, sin embargo, la prevención primaria, en el caso del abuso sexual, ayudará a evitar que suceda éste. La prevención debe ser nuestro objetivo primordial para poder terminar con la violencia sexual en nuestra comunidad.
Si usted o alguien que usted conoce ha sido victima de violencia sexual, contactese con nuestra linea gratuita de informacion y ayuda al telefono: (540) 371-1666. Toda informacion es confidencial.
This month I’ve learned a great deal about LGBTQ issues and how they effect individuals from getting the help they need. I was surfin’ the internetz and came across a POP QUIZ!
I love a pop quiz, even as a kid I would get kinda jittery and excited to show my skills at a pop quiz! Just like when I procrastinate to the last minute I see great results, I always did better on pop quizzes than when I KNEW a test was coming and I had tons of time to prepare. Character flaw, I know!
So I sat down, printed the quiz out and took it…BTW I passed with flying colors! Here is your chance to shine too, or figure out where you could brush up on the subject.
If you are going to be a volunteer like I am at RCASA, or another agency it is really helpful to know who you are talking to, how they identify, and how you can respectfully discuss the situation/s they face.
The first way is just having compassion. Everyone is different and deserving of love, respect, and kindness.
Another way is by educating yourself…this is where the pop quiz comes in. This quiz is a self test to see how much you know about gender identity, sexual orientation, and gender expression.
This is coming directly from the Advocates for Youth website. Which worked with the Coalition for Education on sexual orientation to make this quiz.
|Sex (biological sex)||Gender identity|
|Sexual orientation||Primary sex characteristics|
|Male-to-female||Sexual reassignment surgery|
|Gender expression||Secondary sex characteristics|
|Sexual minority||Men who have sex with men|
Fill in the Blank
- _______________________ Native American term for a person born with one biological sex and fulfilling at least some of the gender roles assigned to both sexes; considered part male and part female or wholly male and wholly female; often revered as a natural peace maker, healer, and shaman
- ______________________ Having the genitalia, chromosomes, and hormones of females or males
- ______________________ An umbrella term for all individuals who are outside the boundaries of biological sex and culturally determined gender expression
- ______________________ A woman who feels romantic, emotional, and sexual attraction to other women
- ______________________ Feeling romantic, emotional, and sexual attraction to both males and females; a normal sexual orientation of no known cause
- ______________________ Physical characteristics that appear at puberty, including pubic hair as well as facial and chest hair (males) and breasts (females)
- ______________________ Process of becoming aware of one’s sexual orientation, accepting it, and sharing it with at least a few others
- ______________________ A term from the African American/black GLBTQ community and used by people of color who may see ‘gay’ and ‘lesbian’ as terms of the white GLBTQ community
- ______________________ Social and cultural expression of biological sex
- ______________________ Feeling romantic, emotional, and sexual attraction to those of the opposite sex; a normal sexual orientation of no known cause
- ______________________ Characteristics present at birth and used to identify the sex of the infant — specifically, the penis and scrotum of males; the vulva, vagina, clitoris, and labia of females
- ______________________ The ways in which an individual communicates gender to others through behavior, clothing, hairstyle, voice, and/or emphasis or de-emphasis of bodily characteristics
- ______________________ A once derogatory term that has been reclaimed by some members of the GLBTQ community; an umbrella term for people whose sexual orientation and/or gender identity does not conform to mainstream cultural norms or models
- ______________________ A term to describe males who engage in sexual behaviors with other men; includes men who self-identify as heterosexual as well as gay and bisexual men
- ______________________ Being born with some degree of ambiguity in regard to genitalia and/or reproductive system
- ______________________ A person born biologically female who identifies as a male and takes on the sex, gender, and identity of a male through surgery, medications, mannerisms, dress, and/or behavior
- ______________________ Romantic, emotional, and sexual attraction to others, categorized by the sex of the people to whom one is attracted
- ______________________ Preferred term for people who usually identify with their own sex and gender but who sometimes wear the clothing, jewelry, etc., of the other gender to fulfill emotional needs
- ______________________ Being unsure of one’s sexual orientation and/or gender identity or feeling uncomfortable with the available categories (i.e., gay, straight, male, female, etc.)
- ______________________ The state of feeling alone and apart from others and a cause of deep psychological distress in humans as in other social animals
- ______________________ Surgical procedures to modify one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics
- ______________________ A person born male who self-identifies as female and takes on the sex, gender, and identity of a female through medications, surgery, mannerisms, dress, and/or behaviors
- ______________________ Feeling romantic, emotional, and sexual attraction to members of the same sex; a normal sexual orientation of now known cause
- ______________________ One’s innermost sense of self as male or female, as lying somewhere between these two genders, or as outside gender lines altogether
- ______________________ An umbrella term for anyone whose sexuality is expressed in less common ways; may include people who self-identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, Two-Spirit, third gender, and so on
1) Two-Spirit; 2) sex (biological sex); 3) transgender; 4) lesbian; 5) bisexuality; 6) secondary sex characteristics; 7) coming out; 8) same-gender loving; 9) gender; 10) heterosexuality; 11) primary sex characteristics; 12) gender expression; 13) queer; 14) men who have sex with men; 15) intersex; 16) female-to-male; 17) sexual orientation; 18) crossdressers; 19) questioning; 20) isolation; 21) sexual reassignment surgery; 22) male-to-female; 23) homosexuality; 24) gender identity; 25) sexual minority.