and so I will stand on my soapbox…so that you can see me…because I am short.
By now you have probably heard about the case in Cleveland, Texas. Eighteen young men and boys (14-27 is the age range), have been arrested in connection to the brutal gang-rape of an 11 year old girl. These men videotaped the assault and showed it around at their school as well.
With echoes of Glen Ridge, some in the community have asked ‘how could their young men have been drawn into such an act?’
‘Drawn into…’? Seriously? They made a choice to attack this girl.
The community has of course taken sides…with those accused. The ask why she didn’t repot the attack herself. She is 11 years old. They claim that they dresses much older. She’s eleven. They say that she must have lied about her age. SHE’S F&*^%ING 11 YEARS OLD!
Some of these men are in their twenties. One is the same age as I am, 27. This is not a case of mistaken identity. They are predators. They saw her walking and picked her up. They raped her in the home of one of these men. They fled. They ran away when of their aunts came home. They took her to an abandoned trailer and raped her, again. They filmed all of this. They showed the video around their school.
What. The. F*&k.
At what point do we stop this behavior. How many more times are we going to pretend that this happens because there are just bad people in the world? And if that’s true, why do we act so surprised when it happens, and why do we always seem to ask why these boys did this?
Why are the lives and reputations of men in our society so sacrosanct? From priests who are supposed to be de-facto role models (regardless of belief) to athletes, we protect them. Over and over and over again. We try to find some reason that the victim, young or old, male or female, must have done something to invite the brutality or was somehow complicit in the crime. What were they wearing? Did they say no? Why were they where they were? WHY DO WE ASK THESE QUESTIONS? And how young does a victim have to be for us to have empathy for THEM? I assume younger than 11. So, say 9? If she had been 9 years old? Or maybe 3 years old???
Why are we not asking ‘What the f*&k is wrong with men that they keep raping/assaulting so many women/girls/men?’
An 11-year cannot consent to any sexual activity, legally or otherwise. The maturity simply isn’t there, I don’t care how old someone acts or dresses.
A woman in the community, acquainted with some of the boys and men has stated that ‘these boys have to live with this the rest of their lives.’
Yes they do. They have to live with the fact that the chose to pick up an 11-year old girl and brutally rape her and film the unconscionable act. She has to deal the fact that they made the choice to brutally assault her. She has to deal with the community who is supporting these men, not her. They are at fault, not her. Quit blaming the victim.
I’m so f*&%ing tired of this s*&t. Stop making the choice to rape children. Stop making the choice to rape women. Stop making the choice to sexually assault women. Stop making the choice physically, verbally, and financially assault women in the media and pawn it off as ‘just a joke.’ It isn’t a joke. It is real. Stop making the choice to spew homophobic crap. Stop making the choice to blame the poor for their poverty.
Believe or not, but it isn’t as difficult as it seems to not rape women. You. Just. Don’t. Rape them. That is it.