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RCASA’s Tuesday Prevention: PUT THIS ON THE MAP – Reteaching Gender & Sexuality

In Prevention, Sexual Assault Awareness on November 30, 2010 at 8:00 am

PUT THIS ON THE {MAP} is reteaching gender and sexuality to professionals such as school administrators, social workers, health care providers and juvenile probation staff. With youth voices at the forefront, our team of educators use dynamic, relevant and informative professional development trainings and workshops to shift the conversation about gender and sexuality in our communities. Find out more on this site about our award-winning documentary, our upcoming tour, and our professional development work.

Our current project Reteaching Gender & Sexuality is a message about queer youth action and resilience. The video was generated to contribute additional queer/trans youth voices to the national conversations about queer/trans youth lives. Reteaching Gender & Sexuality intends to steer the conversation beyond the symptom of bullying, to consider systemic issues and deeper beliefs about gender and sexuality that impact queer youth. We invite you to share the video with your friends, family and networks; we invite you to share with us what THIS issue means to you! The video was created by PUT THIS ON THE MAP!

 

Taken with permission from

Sid Jordan Peterson
Revelry MEDIA&METHODS
info@putthisonthemap.org

Tratemos de poner un alto al Abuso Sexual

In Advocacy, Case Management, Education, Hispanic/Latino, Legal Advocacy, Outreach, Prevention, Sexual Assault Awareness, Systems Advocacy, Trauma on November 29, 2010 at 10:13 am

Reproducido y modificado de: http://www.mcas.org.ni/abuso10.html, por el: Concilio Rappahannock contra el Asalto Sexual – Rappahannock Council Against Sexual Assault, RCASA,

(540) 371-5502, para propósitos de educación e información cibernética.

Hablemos de abuso sexual

¡Alto al abuso sexual!

La familia tiene un papel fundamental en la prevención del abuso sexual.  La única manera de evitarlo es cambiar los valores culturales.  Quien pretenda cambiar algo en el mundo debe empezar por su propia casa.  Ése es el camino a seguir, hasta lograr que niños y niñas dejen de ser abusados sexualmente.  Si madres, padres, maestras/os y todas/os aquellas/os que estamos en contacto con ellas y ellos entendiéramos el origen, las consecuencias y los costos del abuso sexual, podríamos educar a las niñas/os, y adolescentes para que ellas/os mismas/os se conviertan en artífices de su protección.

Sin dejar esa enorme responsabilidad solo a ellas/os; ya que somos las y los adultos responsables del cuido y protección a la niñez.  Para sanar a un niño o niña del abuso sexual no sólo se necesita llevar inmediatamente a terapia; se trata de algo más amplio, que tiene que ver con la salud emocional de la persona que fue víctima y de la propia familia que va a vivir con esta historia. E l primer paso para la sanación tiene que ver con el respeto a la verdad.  Cuando un niño o una niña nos dice que fue abusado/a, tenemos que creerles.  Así comienzan a entender que la culpa fue del otro, del abusador, y no suya.  Esto es parte fundamental para la sanación.  En familias donde el abuso se reproduce por generaciones, uno de los factores que alimenta la perpetuidad es la normalización de la violencia en todas sus formas.  Cuando creemos que esto que está haciendo mi padre o madre, mi tío o mi abuelo conmigo es normal, no hay nada que yo pueda hacer, ni siquiera aprender a cuestionarlo porque no tenemos herramientas para hacerlo. Lo que no queremos entender, en términos de la violencia sexual contra niños y niñas, es que se ha normalizado y se ha convertido en un valor cultural tanto en las familias como en las instituciones del Estado. Las personas, generalmente, creemos que la víctima de alguna manera tuvo una corresponsabilidad para ser abusada y que la familia, la madre, el padre, el tío, la abuela, la persona que no fue la abusadora, pero que estaba cerca, es cómplice, pero no siempre es así. El machismo es otro valor cultural que se convierte en una tapadera de todas las formas de violencia, y mucho más del abuso sexual.  El padre se considera con derechos sobre las hijas o, en muchos casos, las madres piensan que sus hijas preadolescentes sedujeron al padre o al padrastro y que el abuso es culpa de ellas.  Recordemos que nos han impuesto que los valores de lo masculino se anteponen a todos los demás, a lo femenino y a la infancia.  Si no detenemos el abuso sexual infantil, vamos a seguir perpetuando los valores de la violencia, del desamor, porque, en la medida en que se siga abusando sistemáticamente de niñas, niños y adolescentes, estás fomentando una sociedad en la que estas criaturas no creen en nadie, ni siquiera en sí mismas . Creo que la única manera de detener este crimen es cambiando los valores culturales a través de la educación y la prevención. Hay que empezar en nuestra propia casa, continuar con las y los vecinos, luego en la comunidad, en la escuela, en el municipio, departamento y país, juntos y juntas.  Como intercesora legal he escuchado muchísimos casos en los que el abuso sexual fue cometido por un padrastro, un tío, por el abuelo, inclusive hasta por la madre. Hagamos conciencia y trabajemos para tartar de poner un alto a este abuso, la mayoría de víctimas son personas vulnerables que crecen confuses, les falta el amor, la comunicación y sufren de baja auto-estima personal. Hablemos con nuestros hijos, pasemos más tiempo con ellos, para que ellos se sientan amados, para que confien en ellos mismos y no sean víctimas fáciles de estos depredadores.  Si necesita ayuda, llámenos al (540) 371-5502  – Concilio Rappahannock contra el Asalto Sexual Rappahannock Council Against Sexual Assault, RCASA Fredericksburg, Virginia

RCASA Sunday with Case Management: Adolescents and Sexual Assault

In Sexual Assault Awareness on November 28, 2010 at 8:00 am

Adolescent women are at a higher risk for sexual violence than any other age group. Part of the reason for this is the large number of date/acquaintance rapes which occur at this age. This is coupled with the fact that many adolescents are victims of sexual abuse and incest as well. Due to past or ongoing sexual abuse, teens with these experiences are more likely than their non-abused peers to participate in “delinquent” teenage behaviors including those which result in school problems, conflict with authority, early sexual behavior, and eating problems. These behaviors may help the teen escape from jeopardy and/or serve as a cry for help.

The Facts:

  • The risk of rape is four times higher for women aged 16 to 24, the prime dating age.
  • Young women between the ages of 14 and 17 represent an estimated 38% of those victimized by date rape. 
  • Studies indicate that dating violence affects at least 1 in 3 teen couples. It is one of the major sources of violence in teen life.

Effects of sexual assault on teenagers:

  • Emotional
    guilt/self-blame
    fear of recurrence
    crying spells
    mood swings
    feelings of humiliation/shame/embarrassment
    denial
    phobias
    anger at the assailant
  • Social
    fears of impact on peer relations
    acting out
    wish to change environment, e.g. schools
    concerns re: body image
    withdrawal from family and friends
    school performance suffers
  • Familial
    over-protection
    victim blaming
    parents fear sexual problems will follow
    sadness re: “sexualized child,” loss of innocence
    self-blame
    spiritual crisis

RCASA’s Saturday Prevention: Street Harassment

In Prevention, Sexual Assault Awareness on November 27, 2010 at 7:00 am

We all know the stereotypes, a woman walks past a construction site and is the target of catcalls. This is called street harassment. Recently this form of harassment has gained attention in the media as women all across the country are standing up and confronting their attackers. This harassment is not new, and exceptionally common, the first study dedicated to street harassment found that 100% of women surveyed reported being harassed—yes, one-hundred-percent, ALL of them (Gardner, 1995). With the addition of cameras on cell phones, women are getting pictures and videos of their harassers and posting them online. Hollaback, a website dedicated to taking back the streets, posts these stories, pictures, and videos in an effort to not only get the names and faces of their attackers out but also to raise awareness of this issue, and the vile and often violent nature of these attacks.

Some assert that women should just ignore these attacks, turn the other cheek, or worse—be flattered. What silence and acceptance of these attacks does is create and maintain a culture in which gender-based violence is acceptable. It minimizes the experiences of these women. More sinister is that these instances of harassment can be forms of rape-testing, that is seeing how far one can go as a means of judging their fitness as a potential rape victim.

RCASA cannot advocate anyone challenging harassers, the risk of violence is just too great. But what we can advocate is standing up for oneself, and standing up for others when you see this kind of behavior. If a harasser is confronted by not just their victim, but everyone else around them, they’ll be out numbered and adequately shamed for their abhorrent behavior.

This harassment is not limited to just women, LGBTQ individuals(whether they are or are just perceived as such) also deal with this harassment on a daily basis. It too is abhorrent and worthy of ‘hollerin back.’

Carol Brooks Gardner, Passing By: Gender and Public Harassment (Berkeley, CA: University of California Press, 1995), 89-90

RCASA’s Friday Facts: Profile of a Serial Bully

In Sexual Assault Awareness on November 26, 2010 at 8:00 am

The following is an excerpt from the website BullyOnline and describes characteristics of the “Serial Bully.” Unfortunately bullying has become a serious social problem in schools, the workplace, etc. Bullying is often about power and control and can be “crazy-making” for the person or people involved with them. It is estimated that 1 person in 30 is a “serial bully.”

Bullying is a form of abuse. It involves repeated acts over time attempting to create or enforce one group or person’s power over another group or person, thus an “imbalance of power”. The “imbalance of power” may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a target.

Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion. such as psychological manipulation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways. Although the UUK currently has no legal definition of bullying, some US states have laws against it. Bullying in school and the workplace is also referred to as peer abuse

 The serial bully:

  • is a convincing, practised liar and when called to account, will make up anything spontaneously to fit their needs at that moment
  • has a Jekyll and Hyde nature – is vile, vicious and vindictive in private, but innocent and charming in front of witnesses; no-one can (or wants to) believe this individual has a vindictive nature – only the current target of the serial bully’s aggression sees both sides; whilst the Jekyll side is described as “charming” and convincing enough to deceive personnel, management and a tribunal, the Hyde side is frequently described as “evil”; Hyde is the real person, Jekyll is an act
  • excels at deception and should never be underestimated in their capacity to deceive
  • uses excessive charm and is always plausible and convincing when peers, superiors or others are present (charm can be used to deceive as well as to cover for lack of empathy)
  • is glib, shallow and superficial with plenty of fine words and lots of form – but there’s no substance
  • is possessed of an exceptional verbal facility and will outmanoeuvre most people in verbal interaction, especially at times of conflict
  • is often described as smooth, slippery, slimy, ingratiating, fawning, toadying, obsequious, sycophantic
  • relies on mimicry, repetition and regurgitation to convince others that he or she is both a “normal” human being and a tough dynamic manager, as in extolling the virtues of the latest management fads and pouring forth the accompanying jargon
  • is unusually skilled in being able to anticipate what people want to hear and then saying it plausibly
  • cannot be trusted or relied upon
  • fails to fulfil commitments
  • is emotionally retarded with an arrested level of emotional development; whilst language and intellect may appear to be that of an adult, the bully displays the emotional age of a five-year-old
  • is emotionally immature and emotionally untrustworthy
  • exhibits unusual and inappropriate attitudes to sexual matters, sexual behaviour and bodily functions; underneath the charming exterior there are often suspicions or hints of sex discrimination and sexual harassment, perhaps also sexual dysfunction, sexual inadequacy, sexual perversion, sexual violence or sexual abuse
  • in a relationship, is incapable of initiating or sustaining intimacy
  • holds deep prejudices (eg against the opposite gender, people of a different sexual orientation, other cultures and religious beliefs, foreigners, etc – prejudiced people are unvaryingly unimaginative) but goes to great lengths to keep this prejudicial aspect of their personality secret
  • is self-opinionated and displays arrogance, audacity, a superior sense of entitlement and sense of invulnerability and untouchability
  • has a deep-seated contempt of clients in contrast to his or her professed compassion
  • is a control freak and has a compulsive need to control everyone and everything you say, do, think and believe; for example, will launch an immediate personal attack attempting to restrict what you are permitted to say if you start talking knowledgeably about psychopathic personality or antisocial personality disorder in their presence – but aggressively maintains the right to talk (usually unknowledgeably) about anything they choose; serial bullies despise anyone who enables others to see through their deception and their mask of sanity
  • displays a compulsive need to criticise whilst simultaneously refusing to value, praise and acknowledge others, their achievements, or their existence
  • shows a lack of joined-up thinking with conversation that doesn’t flow and arguments that don’t hold water
  • flits from topic to topic so that you come away feeling you’ve never had a proper conversation
  • refuses to be specific and never gives a straight answer
  • is evasive and has a Houdini-like ability to escape accountability
  • undermines and destroys anyone who the bully perceives to be an adversary, a potential threat, or who can see through the bully’s mask
  • is adept at creating conflict between those who would otherwise collate incriminating information about them
  • is quick to discredit and neutralise anyone who can talk knowledgeably about antisocial or sociopathic behaviors
  • may pursue a vindictive vendetta against anyone who dares to held them accountable, perhaps using others’ resources and contemptuous of the damage caused to other people and organisations in pursuance of the vendetta
  • is also quick to belittle, undermine, denigrate and discredit anyone who calls, attempts to call, or might call the bully to account
  • gains gratification from denying people what they are entitled to
  • is highly manipulative, especially of people’s perceptions and emotions (eg guilt)
  • poisons peoples’ minds by manipulating their perceptions
  • when called upon to share or address the needs and concerns of others, responds with impatience, irritability and aggression
  • is arrogant, haughty, high-handed, and a know-all
  • often has an overwhelming, unhealthy and narcissistic attention-seeking need to portray themselves as a wonderful, kind, caring and compassionate person, in contrast to their behaviour and treatment of others; the bully sees nothing wrong with their behavior and chooses to remain oblivious to the discrepancy between how they like to be seen and how they are seen by others
  • is spiritually dead although may loudly profess some religious belief or affiliation
  • is mean-spirited, officious, and often unbelievably petty
  • is mean, stingy, and financially untrustworthy
  • is greedy, selfish, a parasite and an emotional vampire
  • is always a taker and never a giver
  • is convinced of their superiority and has an overbearing belief in their qualities of leadership but cannot distinguish between leadership (maturity, decisiveness, assertiveness, co-operation, trust, integrity) and bullying (immaturity, impulsiveness, aggression, manipulation, distrust, deceitfulness)
  • often fraudulently claims qualifications, experience, titles, entitlements or affiliations which are ambiguous, misleading, or bogus
  • often misses the semantic meaning of language, misinterprets what is said, sometimes wrongly thinking that comments of a satirical, ironic or general negative nature apply to him or herself
  • knows the words but not the song
  • is constantly imposing on others a false reality made up of distortion and fabrication
  • sometimes displays a seemingly limitless demonic energy especially when engaged in attention-seeking activities or evasion of accountability and is often a committeeaholic or apparent workaholic

Responsibility

The serial bully appears to lack insight into his or her behaviour and seems to be oblivious to the crassness and inappropriateness thereof; however, it is more likely that the bully knows what they are doing but elects to switch off the moral and ethical considerations by which normal people are bound. If the bully knows what they are doing, they are responsible for their behaviour and thus liable for its consequences to other people.

Thursday: Therapy Blog

In Sexual Assault Awareness on November 25, 2010 at 1:43 pm

We are told to be grateful today, to proclaim those things for which we give thanks.  However, it can be hard to feel particularly grateful, especially for things like homes or cars after a sexual assault when we have been stripped of security and a sense of control over our lives.  So, on this day of thanks, I would like to propose the idea of being thankful for surviving.  I would like to give thanks to all survivors in the world who survived; whether survival meant keeping the secret, feeling alone, and bearing the burdon of all those who just don’t get it.  There is always time to heal.  Today, I give thanks for those who continue to survive.

RCASA’s Wednesday’s Upcoming Events: VDay Monologues at Germanna

In Sexual Assault Awareness on November 24, 2010 at 8:00 am

Event Description
Germanna Community College’s Introduction to Women in the Humanities will present thier production of VDAY’s A Memory, A Monologue, A Rant and A Prayer on December 1, 7:30 pm. A $2 donation is requested.

Location Information:
Fredericksburg Area Campus – Workforce Building (2)
Room: 134

Contact Information:
Name: Mary McKearney
Phone: 5408504403
Email: mmckearney@germanna.edu

Every year V-Day invites activists in colleges, communities, high schools or youth groups around the world to present select benefit events (listed below) during & leading up to V-Season (February 1st – April 30th). The purpose of these events is to raise awareness about violence against women and girls as well as raise money for local beneficiaries that are working to end violence. There is no theater or producing experience necessary.

This groundbreaking collection, edited by author and playwright Eve Ensler, features pieces from “Until the Violence Stops,” the international tour that brings the issue of violence against women and girls to the forefront of our consciousness. These diverse voices rise up in a collective roar to break open, expose, and examine the insidiousness of brutality, neglect, a punch, or a put-down. Here is Edward Albee on S&M; Maya Angelou on women’s work; Michael Cunningham on self-mutilation; Dave Eggers on a Sudanese abduction; Carol Gilligan on a daughter witnessing her mother being hit; Susan Miller on raising a son as a single mother; and Sharon Olds on a bra.

These writings are inspired, funny, angry, heartfelt, tragic, and beautiful. But above all, together they create a true and profound portrait of this issue’s effect on every one of us. With information on how to organize an “Until the Violence Stops” event in your community, A Memory, a Monologue, a Rant, and a Prayer is a call to the world to demand an end to violence against women.

RCASA’s Tuesday Promising Programs: Bystander Intervention in Bars

In Sexual Assault Awareness on November 23, 2010 at 8:00 am

Bars and lounges have historically been problematic spaces in the fight to prevent sexual violence. Expectations about alcohol are maddeningly intertwined with expectations about sex, and all of this takes place in the low-lit din of spots where the behavior of people who would look to hurt someone else might fly under the radar.

Bystander intervention at bars is not a new concept, but most often, it is directed toward encouraging individual patrons to protect potential victims: look out for your friends, come together and leave together, and don’t let your friend leave with someone if they seem to be too intoxicated. Those are all excellent and sensible tips, and ones that can be effective.

But what if we could take it further? Rather than try to reach and skill-build with every potential reveler, what if we could make effective bystander intervention part of the atmosphere at a bar? For the past few years, that’s what  the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center has been trying to do, and I’d like to highlight some of the unique and innovative aspects of the project.

How we got started working with Bars

The bar trainings BARCC conducts across the city grew from our relationship with the Boston Police Department’s (BPD) sexual assault unit, and from the BPD’s relationship to the Liquor Licensing Board. The police department had identified a handful of “hot spots” in the city—areas with high concentrations of popular bars frequented by both large numbers of college students and tourists alike—and collaborated with the licensing board to call a meeting of bar owners and management in that area, to which we were invited.

A bar without a liquor license might as well be a vacant storefront, so linking the conversation about sexual violence to licensing was key to getting the attention of bar owners —  an audience that we might otherwise have a difficult time reaching. The police and licensing board were also able to address some legitimate concerns of the owners: in the past, bars who repeatedly called on the police risked being seen as “problem” establishments and therefore would jeopardize their license.   The police and licensing board assured bar owners that the bars who did call the police to handle sexual violence-related matters would NOT jeopardize their license. Finally, the police and licensing board introduced BARCC staff and the training programs that we could offer to bar staff.

I hope that others can learn from what we have done so far and share with us some other successes (or mistakes) along the way. Here are four tips:


Tip One: Constructing bystander interventions as part of good customer service
The foundation of our training is that we’re merely expanding their professional skills of the bar staff, and sexual violence prevention is part of excellent customer service. When a bar is seen as safe, comfortable, and enjoyable, with friendly and helpful staff, it leads to repeat business and good tips. 

This is not altogether different from the language we use around other types of bystander interventions. The message is, “You don’t have to be a superhero, and the types of steps you can take are the same sorts of things you already do to be a good (friend/colleague/professional, etc.).”

Tip Two: Grounding skill-building in real service-industry experience
This is has been one of the most important pieces of building the credibility and efficacy of the training program, and we include it in several ways.

The initial piece of the training is designed to broaden the perspective of the participants. As with most folks, many service industry staff imagine that sexual violence in a bar setting primarily involves blitz attacks by strangers in restrooms or after patrons leave the premises, or drugging of drinks with some of the more widely-known drugs like rohypnol or ketamine.

We don’t minimize those experiences, because they certainly do happen, but we also bring in a great deal of research on friend/partner/acquaintance assaults (which could include an individual someone just met that evening) and what the grooming behavior might look like. After presenting that information, we solicit feedback from participants, to ask if they can provide examples of similar behavior that they’ve seen.

The examples and case studies we use are pulled from the experiences of longtime service industry staff who helped us create this training. Marcella, a 15-year veteran in the restaurant business, shared this story: She was serving a table of two individuals out on a date, but when the woman went to the restroom, the man asked Marcella to bring a few rounds of shots to the table. The problem was that he asked Marcellato serve his date vodka and him water. When she did bring the shots to the table, she switched them so that the woman got the water. When the woman complained that she had received water, Marcella explained to her what her companion had asked her to do, and said she must have mixed them up. It brought the hidden situation into the open and Marcella was there to ensure that the woman knew what was going on.

Tip Three: Creating Teams within Each Establishment Ensures a Broader Range of Responses
From working directly with the service industry, we learned that staff in different roles have very different levels of responsibility and “status” in their work setting. We learned that security staff, servers, bartenders, and management all see different sides of the scene from night to night, and they have many different interventions and opportunities at their disposal. Service staff suggested that when we split into smaller groups to practice bystander skills, we build “teams” from each role, to foster communication between different roles and to practice utilizing the different interventions that each person can do in a given situation. We feel that this is key to the success of our program. For example, while a patron’s sexually inappropriate behavior might not rise to the level of being ejected by the bouncer, it might merit a check-in by the server or manager, or the bartender monitoring the amount of alcohol being ordered and consumed by the patron or whomever they’re with.   

Tip Four: Helping bars and restaurants support a safe environment with passive messaging
In addition to providing resource information about our services to the service staff, we wanted to have information available to the patrons of each establishment. BARCC invested the time and resources to design posters that could be adapted to the bar’s aesthetic and then helped to hang them in various locations (staff-only areas, restrooms for both genders, and general patron areas).  Here are just some of our messages:  “We care about your safety. If someone is bothering you or making you uncomfortable, let [insert name of security staff or manager] know” or “We’re looking out for your safety tonight. Help us out—let us know if you or someone else would like some assistance.” The purpose of these posters is multi-level. BARCC wanted to place bystander messages as reminders for staff about what they can do, let patrons know that the establishment was on the lookout for everyone’s safety and comfort, and let patrons know that they too can have a role in keeping themselves and their friends safe.

For more information about BARCC’s bar training program or if you would like to see one of our posters, you can contact me directly at MBossong@barcc.org org.

Meg Bossong
Community Mobilizing Project Manager
reposted from http://www.nsvrc.org/blog……. with permission from Meg Bossong.

Niños de la calle – Worldwide Street Children

In Education, Hispanic/Latino, Outreach, Sexual Assault Awareness on November 22, 2010 at 9:00 am

Niños de la calle a nivel mundial – Street children worldwide

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Sunday Morning with Case Management: Standing against sexual violence!

In Case Management, Education, Outreach, Prevention, Sexual Assault Awareness on November 21, 2010 at 8:00 am

Sexual violence represents a darker side of human kind.  We know it exists but most people would rather not deal with it or hear about it.   Last Sunday I featured a blog that talked about sibling sexual assault.  Sexual assault is happening all around us whether we choose to ignore it or not.  My hope is that with exposure, people can become educated about sexual assault and start working to fight it. 

I am still trying to figure out the best direction for this blog.  I think it is best to just let ideas develop and I have taken the view that I am just going to speak from my heart.  So here I go…

How as a nation can we stand up and against sexual violence.  I mean, I am a wife and a mother, so what is my role.  Nevermind that I work at a Sexual Assault Crisis agency.  WHAT IS MY ROLE IN THE COMMUNITY?  We should ask ourselves that question.  What is my role?  Do I have a role in this? 

So yesterday I was surfing the net and I came across this…maybe you’ve seen it too…
ABC News reported on A 170 page  manual found in Orange County, Florida on How to Molest Children, including where to find them and how to victimize them.   I have attached the link for you to review http://www.theblaze.com/stories/fl-cops-manual-on-how-to-molest-children-is-legal/

Basically in Orange County this book is “legal.”  So I don’t get it.. I mean I get freedom of speech and everything, but I just attended a court case for a child that was sexually violated by a neighborhood stranger.  I saw the pain of the family, this child’s life will not be the same, and the guiltlessness of the perpetrator.  So what I don’t get is the doublemindedness. 

So I have to ask myself, as a nation is this what we stand for.  I know that everyday I wake up and go to work, I stand for the rights of my clients.  I stand for the victim, when are we, as a nation going to stand up and say no to being held hostage and victimized! 

Today I challenge you to ask yourself…what is my role? What can I do in my community to fight for people who cannot fight for themselves?  I challenge you to get up be heard and STAND. 

STAND!

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