RCASA’s Tuesday’s with Traci: Owning Our Energy

In Advocacy, Outreach, Sexual Assault Awareness on January 26, 2010 at 10:45 am

Learn to keep your energy inside.

                                               – Women, Sex, and Addiction

For many reasons, we may have mastered the art of giving away our energy.  We may have learned it when we were young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel, and we did not know how to process them. 

Much of our obsessing, our intense focus on others, is done to facilitate this “out-of-body” experience we call codependency.

We obsess, we babble, we become anxious. We try to control, caretake, and fuss over others. Our energy spills out of us on to whomever.

Our energy is our energy. Our feelings, thoughts, issues, love, sexuality; our mental, physical, spiritual, sexual, creative, and emotional energy is ours.

We can learn to have healthy boundaries– healthy parameters– around ourselves and our energy. We can learn to keep our energy within ourselves and deal with our issues.

If we are trying to escape from our body, if our energy is spilling out of us in unhealthy ways, we can ask ourselves what is going on, what is hurting us, what we are avoiding, what we need to face, what we need to deal with.

Then we can do that. We can come back home to live– in ourselves.


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