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RCASA’s Tuesdays with Traci: The Victim Trap

In Sexual Assault Awareness on December 8, 2009 at 9:46 am

The belief that life has to be hard and difficult is the belief that makes a martyr.

We can change our negative beliefs about life, and whether we have the power to stop our pain and take care of ourselves.

We aren’t helpless. We can solve our problems. We do have power– not to change or control others, but to solve the problems that are ours to solve.

Using each problem that comes our way to “proove” that life is hard and we are helpless– this is codependency. It’s the victim trap.

Life does not have to be difficult. In fact, it can be smooth. Life is good. We don’t have to “awfulize” it, or ourselves. We don’t have to live on the underside.

We do have power, more power than we know, even in the difficult times. And the difficult times don’t prove that life is bad; they are part of the ups and downs of life; often, they work out for the best.

We can change our attitude; we can change ourselves; sometimes, we can change our circumstances.

Life is challenging. Sometimes, there’s more pain than we asked for. Sometimes, there’s more joy than we imagined.

It’s all part of the package, and the package is good.

We are not victims of life. We can learn to remove ourselves as victims of life. By letting go of the belief that life has to be hard or difficult, we make our life much easier.

  1. Just catching up this now. Wisdom to be remembered, embraced, and shared with those that come to sit with us in the sanctity of the therapy encounter.

  2. Good words today….

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