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RCASA’s Tuesdays With Traci: Self-Care

In Blogging, Community, Empowerment, Fredericksburg, RCASA, Rappahannock Council Against Sexual Assault, Relationships, Sexual Assault Awareness, Support, Traci, VA, advocacy, affirmation, art, blog, information, non-profit, positive, power, rights, virginia on February 9, 2010 at 10:55 am

The idea of giving ourselves what we want and need can be confusing, especially if we have spent many years not knowing that it’s okay to take care of ourselves. Taking our energy and focus off of others and their responsibilities and placing that energy on to ourselves and ourselves and our responsibilities ia a healthy behavior that can be acquired. We learn it by daily practice.

We begin by relaxing, by breathing deeply, and letting go of our fears enough to feel as peaceful as we can.  Then, we ask ourselves: What do I need to do to take care of myself today, or for this moment?

What do I need and want to do?

What would demonstrate love and self-responsibility?

Am I caught up in the belief that others are responsible for making me happy, responsible for me? Then the first thing I need to do is correct my belief system. I am responsible for myself.

Do I feel anxious and concerned about a responsibility I’ve been neglecting? Then perhaps I need to let go of my fears and tend to that responsibility.

Do I feel overwhelmed, out of control? Have I been working too hard? Maybe what I need to do is take some time off and do something fun.

Have I been neglecting my work or daily tasks? Then maybe what I need to do is get back to my routine.

There is no recipe, no formula, no guidebook for self-care. We each have a guide and that guide is within us. We need to ask the question: What do I need to do to take loving, responsible care of myself? Then we need to listen to the answer. Self-care is not that difficult. The most challenging part is trusting the answer, and having the courage to follow through once we hear it.

Consejos para padres de Adolescentes – Prevención de la Violencia en Citas de Adolescentes

In Teen Dating - Violence Prevention on February 8, 2010 at 10:16 am

Información extraida del folleto del Departamento de Salud y modificada para propósitos de este artículo: Hoja de Consejos para padres de Adolescentes, para la prevención de la Violencia en citas

La violencia en las citas de  adolescents se define como un patrón de actos repetidos o amenaza de actos que abusan de forma física, sexual o verbal a un miembro de una pareja no casada entre los trece y los diecinueve años de edad.

 

…Consejos…

..Reconocer que los patrones de violencia y victimización Comparten la toma de decisions.
pueden desarrollarse en la adolescencia temprana.  
  Expresan sus sentimientos de forma abierta.
..Sepa que la violencia física no es la única señal de una  
relación abusiva. Realmente se escuchan el uno al otro.
   
..Enséñele a su adolescente las reglas básicas para mantener Se apoyan el uno al otro en sus intereses respectivos.
relaciones sociales saludables durante las citas:  
  Comprenden la necesidad de pasar tiempo solos, con su
Primero tratar de entablar relaciones amigables. Familia o con otros amigos.
   
Salir en grupos o con otra pareja. Aceptan sus diferencias respectivas.
   
Establecer claramente nuestros límites. .. Anime a su adolecente a que le hable acerca de la persona
  con la que esta saliendo.
Tener un segundo plan en mente de como regresar a casa en  
caso que el primero no funcione. ..Aprenda sobre las leyes relacionadas con la violación de
  menores:
No ir demasiado de prisa en la relación.  
  Localmente puede:
Aprenda a resolver conflictos sin gritar ni discutir.  
  ●  Llamar a nuestra línea de ayuda al  540-371-1666
..Ayude a su adolescente a reconocer que en una relación y pidiendo comunicarse con alguien en español.
saludable, ambas personas:  
  Visitando nuestra página electrónica www.rcasa.org
Confian el uno en el otro  
  NADIE MERECE SER ABUSADO.
Se respetan el uno al otro  
   
Valoran sus puntos de vista respectivos.  
   
Se apoyan uno al otro en sus objetivos.  

 

RCASA’s Sunday Article Review: Judging Women and Defining Crime: Police Officers’ Attitudes Toward Women and Rape

In Blogging, Community, Community Issues, RCASA, Rappahannock Council Against Sexual Assault, Sexual Assault Awareness, Social Issues, Violence, abuse, advocacy, blog, control, crime, crisis response, education, facts, information, outreach, power, rape, victim on February 7, 2010 at 9:00 am

Article from Sociological Spectrum, 28: 389-411, 2008, Amy Dellinger Page, Department of Sociology and Social Work, Appalachian State University.

Amy Page, of the Department of Sociology and Social Work looked at rape myths held by the general public and the professionals who serve them, particularly law enforcement.  She sites that the research she reviewed demonstrates a positive relationship between public attitudes toward women and rape myth acceptance. Page writes that that prosecutors rely more heavily on victim characteristics and other extra-legal factors than on criteria set forth by the law, when evaluating the merits of a rape case.  Little is known about whether this relationship also exists within police culture.  The study by Amy Page, assesses the relationship between police officers’ attitudes toward women and their attitudes toward rape.  The effect of a police officer”s educational level on holding onto rape myths is also assessed. Page hypothesized that police officers would be accepting of rape myths, which are inherently misogynistic.  Attitudes toward rape were expected to vary according to educational attainment and experience with rape investigations, such that higher levels of education and more experience with rape investigations would lead to the rejection of rape myths.

A survey was distributed to 2,898 police officers from two states in the southeastern United States. 891 completed surveys were returned, a 30% response rate. 80% of respondents were male and 17% were female. 3% of respondents chose not to identify their gender. 8% held a high school diploma or GED, 41% had some college but had not completed a degree, 15% had an Associate’s degree and 29% had a Bachelor’s degree.

Page found in the responses, that attitudes toward women showed some discrepancy in the previous assumptions and found that while some police officers endorse some sexist attitudes and they reject others.   Of the responses that Page accumulated, she found that police officers see most discrimination against women as something that occurred in the past, yet they also recognize that some forms of discrimination still exist. Generally the respondents  did not endorse  blatantly sexist attitudes.  Similarly, the responses indicate that while some rape myths are accepted, other myths are not.  Page also found that there was a significant difference on measures of modern sexism and the acceptance of rape myths with varying levels of educational attainment. Police officers who accept more rape myths were less likely to believe victims who did not adhere to the cultural stereotyped victim characteristics.  Page’s results indicated little differences in attitudes between the general cultural beliefs and the beliefs of police officers, finding that police officers did not hold rape myths or hold sexist attitudes more than the general public.  There were, however, a number of gender differences with women expressing more liberal views towards female rape victims than men, while men held more strongly to rape myths than women.

However, despite the continued discrepancy in beliefs held by the police officers studied by Page, the majority of police officers in her study agreed that any woman or man can be raped and disagreed with victim blaming statements.  One factor in Page’s study showed that police officers with higher education are more attuned to social problems, including gender oppression and have more egalitarian attitudes toward women. Her study also indicates that police officers may be less accepting of rape myths now than found in the past.

Rape myths are strongly related to general attitudes toward women.  Rape is not only a crime of violence and aggression but a crime of power that helps to reinforce inequality and sex role stereotypes. Rape victims often suffer negative consequences because of biased and prejudicial perceptions of sexual violence held by the general public, and allied professionals.  These attitudes have a negative impact  on victims’ self-perceptions.

Page’s study is refreshing and informative in that is disabuses the belief that police or other law enforcement are more sexist than the general public or more likely to harbor a belief in rape myths.  However, her study does highlight that rape myths still exist in our general culture.   That despite the great gains our society has made over the years in perceptions and reactions to rape victims, these attitudes continue to be held by the general public, including the allied professionals that serve victims.  We need to continue to focus on strategies for changing ideas about sexual assault, including,  action-oriented research which will help to educate, raise consciousness and improve services for victims.